One of the most important things I am learning lately is how to be a better friend. I have been looking for ways I can bear the burdens of my friends more. In some ways, this is a new kind of work for me. For the past 5 years I have been studying the Bible with mainly campus girls. I always haven’t had time to work on friendships — or at least, that’s what I’ve told myself.
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Gal 6:2
I’ve realized my life has been too much, “The Kat Show.” Even though I’m serving, it’s all about what I am doing. I’m serving others, but I’m serving them on my terms.
I was convicted a week ago when Mike preached about being armor bearers for one another. (I Samuel 14) He asked, “Who are you being an armor bearer for?” And I couldn’t really name anyone. Yes, I try to encourage my friends. I try to help them.
But who have I devoted myself to making radiant, as Christ seeks to make us radiant? (Eph 5:27) Who have I supported to raise them up? Who am I being a friend to on their terms, meeting their needs? Not really anyone.
So I am contemplating ways to be a better friend to those in my life. I am watching for what they truly need. I am looking for the burdens they most need help with shouldering.
It’s time for the Kat Show to close down. It’s time for things to be about others, and for me to be a supporting player in their show.